She's Flirting via IM
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
hey I have a question that I really need answered because it's been eating away at me for a bit now. There's this girl that I used to really like just earlier this year. Things were going good and then they went really bad, and we were in a fight. We more or less lost contact for about 1 or 2 months, and during that time I made a lot of new freinds which are girls. It started by me liking this one girl, and we went to our school semi formal and we dated as friends for a bit. She has a b/f now though so we're just friends and during that time all her friends knew I liked her and were very supportive, and now I'm really good friends with all of them and we tell each other and I feel like I can tell them anything.
Well anyways about a month ago this girl I use to like added me to MSN again and we started to talk a little. Now for the past month I've talked to her every day and i never have to start a convo with her she's always gung ho to start one with me.I asked a really close freind what she thought of all this and she got me to save a convo I had with this girl. So I saved one and it seemed like she was trying to ask me out in the convo or something. After reading a certain part my friend was convinced that this girl now likes me.
I was really shocked at this news,and now i don't know what to do. Honestly to me it seems like she does but I can't be sure. She's always asking me what I'm doin that night, and we get along pretty good now. I'm a lot different then I use to be in a good way, and maybe she likes that. So anyways as you can see I'm really mixed up here and I'd really like your guy's opinion you haven't let me down yet.
OK first, one of the worst things to do in a relationship is to spread it around school. This relationship is about you and her and how you two relate to each other. Any time you start revealing your private conversations to others you damage the trust between you two. So I would really work on the relationship WITH this girl and not go distributing it like a library loan book.
The only one who knows how she feels is her. The only one who can ask her is you. Nobody else knows. If you guys are talking daily, then you have a good relationship. Relationships are all about sharing feelings, talking, trusting each other. So trust her and let her learn that she can trust you. Suggest you two go to movies as friends. Go to dinner as friends! The more you do together as friends, the better. All great relationships start with two people who are best friends. So do things with her, and you'll see how they develop right before your eyes. But talk to HER about these things.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com