I realized that over these past few months I've fallen back in love with him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
So I dated this guy that I have known my whole life... I've loved him since we were kids. When we dated I was away at school we had conflicting schedules and didn't see each other often. It was also my first relationship, I was overly emotional. A rocky year later we parted and didn't talk for nearly a year. I have returned home to our home town and we now live two minutes apart. I've dated a few guys since then (and been burned everytime) and he has been dating one girl. We recently started hanging out. We talk every Friday for hours then he drops by we just laugh and have fun, shoot pool, watch movies till 3am. This has been going on for two months... and recently it has turned intimate (a few times).... I'm confused.
I just recently joined our fire dept. which he has been a part of for 10 years. He was genuinely excited for me to be there, and he loves the fire dept so I felt truly blessed. We work similar hours now... but he has his new girlfriend, whom doesn't allow him to do anything I know he loves doing, i.e. he can't party, he can't smoke, hang out with friends, she even hates it when he goes to the fire dept. We have to hide that we are friends because she would hate it. They don't see each other often... he still does all this stuff, and aparently she doesn't know about it. The thing is I realized that over these past few months I've fallen back in love with him. And he just keeps saying he's scared of getting caught... I think he is staying with her because she is safe... she won't leave him, she buys him things, and because his family and everyone would be mad at him if he broke up with her..... What do I do? Do I wait and see if he does it on his own...? He's never been good with breaking up with ppl. Does he care about me?
It seems he cares a lot for you.
You should let him know how you feel about him. This will put him into a situation where he might make a choice. Of course, he might choose to stay with her.
You also have the option of leaving things the way they are and see what develops.
My advice is to tell him how you feel. Better to ask than wonder.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com