He asked me out - does he like me?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
A guy has liked me from another 'social class'. Well, I had asked him to sign something of mine, and he told me he would sign it on one condition-"as long as I promise to go out with him-and chill." I was totally shocked, because as I've said before, I have had a crush on this guy since the tenth grade, and I didn't realize that he would even 'try' to have interest in me. He told me after I promised to go with him, then he would sign my book without any delay.
I was excited that he would sign my book (because he said that he had only signed 3 other people's) and I was just surprised at the proposition that he made. I've always liked him, but I am not so sure about going with him. (I never thought he would ask me out-out of all people!) Is he trying to black male me or was he trying to use a good pickup line just so I'd go out with him? I am so confused. Please help me.
One of the most important things to learn about life is to trust people. Playing games with people or manipulating them or coercing them is very unhealthy. This guy says he wants to date you. And you're upset about this, even though you like him a lot? One of the most important things a man and woman can do is TRUST each other and TALK to each other.
You need to stop second-guessing everything he does, doubting him, figuring he has "ulterior motives". You need to stop judging him based on the friends he has or the crowd he's in or anything else. He is a PERSON. You are a PERSON. What is key is how you two, as people, relate to each other and talk to each other.
He likes you. He's asked you to date him. You like him. So TALK to him. Get to know him, get to be friends with him, and above all, be HONEST with him. That is the most important thing you can ever have in any relationship.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com