Why do i even dream of him? (I am happily married)
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I had a highschool sweetheart, we were together on and off for about 2 yrs, i was his first gf and he was my first serious bf. I really loved him, but you know we were young and i was real self centered, always wanted him to be around, i was real possessive and real stubborn and egotistical.. He looked past through that and still loved me w/ all of his might. He was faithful, polite and thoughtful. My family liked him a lot. Then things went bad, i broke up w/ him js bcoz of a stupid fight and he chased me for about two weeks and then finally gave up. I really loved him, while the breakup i still wasnt over him and i know he wasnt either, but we had too much pride. Senior yr, things gotten worst. We fought in public, I slapped him and yelled at him but he ddnt hurt me or yelled at me. He just took it. I think at that point all respect had been lost and that was really it for our relationship. After that we never talked to each other, would always avoid one another. A few months after that fight, I went to his hang out place and i asked him if i could have a moment w/ him. So we talked, and i was asking him to be simply my friend, we did share something really special and i just wanted it to end in a nice way.. BUT HE REFUSED. He refused for a long time. We gratuated, he went to the navy and that was it. I was really sad, coz at that moment i still loved him dearly. While he was still in the navy, he had a long distance relationship w/ this gal, and had some problems. He would call me and ask for advices. We were really good friends before we dated. So, i was a good enough friend to give him advices from my heart. He said sorry for holding a grudge for such a long time. I thought things are finally fine. Now, im married and has a beautiful baby. He's living w/ his wife. (the same gal i talked about) I thought things are finally fine. I emailed him on his bday and he ignored it for some reason. Not even a thank you. It just really seems like im not his friend again. He's like a big question mark to me. I would always, always dream of him.. Like it has some message in it.. I dont even think of him and yet i dream of him. It just makes me wonder why. I just don't get it. Should i email him and ask him what's up or just let things go? It just really bugs me, coz i really dont know why? Why do i even dream of him? (I am happily married)
Don't let the dreaming worry you.
We all dream about people that we have had good times or bad times with. It is our brain's way of trying to resolve conflict.
My advice is to let sleeping dogs lie. You are both happily married so don't try to stir things up.
-- from George
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