I love him dearly and I miss the person that I trust and consider my best friend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I want my ex-boyfriend back...... I've read other responses and my friends are very good at telling me what they think....but none of it really helps. I just want him back.
We had been going out for 16 months, and I entered an extremely stressing part of my life - nothing to do with my boyfriend - and its like he couldn't cope any more than I could so he dumped me. Since then we have slept together several times. We have drifted in and out of friendship. He tells me that he misses me one minute and that he doesn't even want to be my friend the next. He has also told me that if this other girl didn't extist we would still be together. Also one of his friends has told him that once you break up with someone you should never get back together with them because you just enter a cycle of break up get back together etc. I love him dearly and I miss the person that I trust and consider my best friend. How can I get him back without seeming desparate, needy, or nagging?
You have an advantage.
You and he are still good friends and you can build on that. Call him just once a week and ask him how he is doing. Don't make it a long conversation... 15 or 20 min max. You can tell him you still care for him but don't get into a discussion of your relationship.
He should respond as a friend and give you support. After time, he may begin to feel the loving feelings he did before.
For your sake I hope so!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com