we always talked about a future, what it would be like and baby names
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
yes hi, i have read so many tips. but i still really really need help. well im 18 and my ex is 17 i have graduated and hes a senior now. we have been dating for six beautiful and amazing months. about two moths ago he moved about t hours away with his family back to austin were he use to live. and its been hard but we managed to call each other all the time. and i would try and visit when i could i cant just go when i want to because i dont have a license yet. well every time we saw each other it was amazing so much fun and laughter he is so open with me and were both very open with each other hes my best friend and he tells me all the time that im hes best friend. we alwasy talked about afuture, what it would be like and baby names and careers and our love for each other etc. well i visited him a lil longer than two weeks ago and it was great i stayed the weekend w/him . and this thursday sep. 29 he broke up with me that night because i felt as though there was somthing we wasnt saying so i told him to and he said that he couldnt feel it right now, he said i love you though and i said what are you not in love with me? and he said no i dont know why. that hurt so much. now you see i know this might sound silly but i believe he is my soulmate we alwasy said we were to each other he makes me so happy he really does and i know that i will never love anyone like i love him i will alwasy be in love with him till the day i die. i know this with every inch of my heart and soul. some would say thats not true but it really is. and yes i am sceared. i feel so empty and confused and yes we have talked about it. he cried that night trying to tell me and telling me how sorry he was for causeing me this pain but he just wanted to be honest. and i asked how long have you felt this way and he said a lil less than two weeks.i asked him if he knew he was in love with me that weekend i had just been their and he said yes.i dont understand how this has happened. and we have talked since then he has called me. i havent called him. he says he needs some time cause he so confused about things. he says he has another life their in austin than here where i live. hes says its like were moving in seperate directions. i told him i hated him and i was sorry for that. cause i gave him everything, then i said maybe your right maybe im not in love with you either not in a mean tone though. and he said really? and asked me again, soundding somewhat concerend. then i said no i am in love with and i always will be. he told me he loves and im his best friend and his favorite person. and he alwasy wants to be in my life and alwasy wants to be here for me. and i said i cant believe i lost you and he said you havent. he said maybe this is just a weird thing or feeling im going through right now. and i said do you ever think well be together again and he said i hope so and probably. he said i dont want another girl, i dont want to date any one else i love you sarbear, hes nick name for me, you would be the first one i would come to or want to be with. he said i dont believe its over for good and he said im not going to lose you sarah. i love you.he says hes gonna try to find hes feelings that he alwasy had. he said dont give up on me i told him i wouldnt.then i was thinking that maybe its not him hes trying to find becasue hes so confused with school work and austin and his friends and a carrer. maybe its me. i have been so sceared of losing him that every conversation we had was almost the same and whe began to watch tv when we talked to . but im alwasy so scaered that i forgot to just let our love happen,he says he hates not being able to be with me or have me with him when he wishes i could be there. i said im sceared that youll call one day and youll say you really dont see us together, and he said i dont believe that phone call will ever happen. and he might have said it wont.cant remember. but is it me and is this his way of trying to tell me he misses the old me or is he really not in love with me any more. i was confused at one time too a long time ago but then i realized and found all my love for him again and more. please help me. im so sceared and i dont want to lose the love of my life. i just cant but ill let him go i just pray he can find me again and is there somthing i can do to help him fall in love with me again. please help. please.
From the discussions you have had, it seems at least possible that he will find his way back to you.
Maintain contact with him just to see how he is doing and to let him know what's going on in your life. Keeping your friendship is the most important element in the chance of renewing your love.
Once the pressures are off of him, he may have the emotional energy to bring you back into your life.
I hope so!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com