i dont want to let him back in my heart cause he will hurt me more...

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my name is depressed and i am 15 years old a sophmor at high school.i may not know much about love but i know it hurts.
im am deeply heart broken. when i though everthing was going good, it smack me in the face. my ex and i got back together the third time after he cheated on me, i guess becuase i was so blinded by love. i was so in love i wanted to lose my virginaty to him, cause he said he loved me(he was my first boyfriend). So it happened the last day of freshman year. during the summer break we hung out alot, we were inseperable. when i returned to school the first day he acted like he didnt know me. i thought he was just trying to see all his friends first like i was. the fourth day of school he broke my heart for good, it will never heal again. i saw him with the girl he cheated on me with. i asked him if they were together he denied it. i asked her and she said yes. its been two months now since we broke up. i still love him, i dont know why i just do. i tried to move on and i did. but im still thinking about him even though i have a new boy friend. i dont think it is fair to my boyfriend that i still love my ex. i dont want my ex, id rather be alone. and for some reason i know he still loves me. he treats me real different than the other girls. he talks to me like im special, he looks at me as if he never saw me before.he smiles at me when i look at him. i dont want to let him back in my heart cause he will hurt me more... i am soooo confused

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You don't seem confused to me, what you described seems very realistic to me andd your goals are good. I guess the confused part is how to reach that goal.

My advice is to keep on doing what you are doing. Pretty much ignore your ex while you enjoy your new b/f. Give time a chance to do its healing. Soon he will just be a memory from the past.

Here are tips on how to handle a breakup: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/54875

I hope some of the tips help you!

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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