he cheated on me several times, and i acted like nothing happened
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i was in a relationship for 4yrs. i lost my virginity to him and left my friends and fought with my family for him. the 4yrs we were together he cheated on me several times, and i acted like nothing happened. i finally got the courage to break up with him, and the same week i did i found someone else. i got engaged to that person and a yr later we got married. ive been married for 4 mths now and from the time i broke up with my ex until now i still love him...very much but i also love my husband. my ex has been trying to keep in touch calling me telling me he still loves me and will wait for me. im confused what do i do? i dont want to be with my ex but i still love him. he has a very strong hold on me and i dont know what it is. please help me figure out what to do.
First tell your ex to stop calling you.
You need to break all ties with him so you can't more easily forget him. Don't feel guilty about loving your ex, feelings are feelings. But you have a husband that you love too.
If you want to, tell your husband the whole story including your feelings of love for your ex. If he is a good husband, he will understand and help you talk through your feelings. This will be a good way to help forget your ex.
Perhaps you have feelings for your ex because he reminds you of your younger years when you were having the first passionate feelings and emotions.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com