But the kiss was when me and him were jus friends.Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend broke up with me because I lied to him, well i didnt tell him the whole truth. Me and my cousins went to my friends house. He liked me at the time but i didnt like him. I was liking my boyfriend (who is now my ex). We had jus met and I was falling for him. But anyway I went to the boys house and i didnt wanna be there. Before we left and he kissed me and i pulled away. I was really ready to go because i didnt like being in that situation. So we left. My now ex found out about it. I guess it got back to one of his friends. But i dont know how anyone knew because when the boy kissed me it was jus me and him. But anyway my now ex got mad when he found out. He said he couldnt trust me. I told him that i didnt even know that he cared about like that. If i wouldve known it was that serious then I really wouldnt have went over there but i jus thought that he only saw me as a friend. He told me how i he felt about me then. I had to tell him about my whole past. It was not fair to me because my past had nothing to do with us. Thats where all the problems came from. We went through this again in may over my past. Now here it is in september and he brings it up again. I didnt tell him the truth(about the kiss) because i was scared of losing him. Now he says he forgives me but he will never forget. He says he still loves me but he cant trust me. He says he wants me to have his baby and that he cant leave me alone. If he forgives me then why arent we together now. Its not fair to me because in the beginning i felt humiliated having to tell someone about my past. Im in love with him and i wanna be with him. He makes it seem like im a bad person and he will try and make me feel so bad about the situation. But the kiss was when me and him were jus friends. What should i do about us? Please give me advice.
Tell him plain and simple that the kiss was before you two were together and that you didn't want the kiss anyway.
Now ask him if he is willing to forget the whole thing or lose you.
Make him make the choice right then and there between the alive living you or an ancient meaningless kiss. Tell him you have no intention of staying with him if he is going to hold it over your head for the rest of your life.
-- from George
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