Does he want to be with his ex?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months and things seem fine but im getting mixed signals. How do i know if he still likes me the same way he did when we first started dating or if he still wants to be with his ex?
If you're going to start worrying about how you compare to an ex, the relationship is going to have troubles. There are always exs in someone's past of one type or another. You need to focus on the fact that he has chosen to be with you now, and that the two of you are building a relationship together.
Things will never be the same as when you started. One of the facts of a relationship is that it is always growing, always changing, always adjusting to the way life affects you. Think of how you were when you were 3 years old - you can never be that way again. You have learned so many things since then, have so much more knowledge and experience. The same is true for your relationship. You two need to keep working at it to keep it strong and healthy as you go through life. You can't "freeze" it the way you were when you started, you can never go backwards. You can only go forwards, and work on making your time together a happy time.
If you are getting a sense from him that sometimes he's unhappy, then talk to him about it. The only one who knows why he's unhappy is him, and the only way you'll fix it is by addressing it. Talking is the most important thing you can ever do with your boyfriend, and it is the key to surviving the weeks and months ahead.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com