EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A BOYFRIEND ALL I THINK ABOUT IS J*
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
O-KAY THIS IS A LONG STORY. I AM JSUT GOING TO START OFF BY TELLING YOU THAT ME AND MY EX J* HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR TWO AND A HALF YEARS AND I JSUT BROKE UP WITH HIM A MONTH AGO BECAUSE WE HAD BEEN FIGHTING REAL BAD. I TOLD HIM WE NEEDED TO TAKE A BREAK FOR AT LEAST A MONTH. WELL I GOT DRUNK ONE NIGHT AND ENDED UP SLEEPEN WITH THIS BOY. I FELT REAL BAD ABOUT IT AND STILL DO. BUT I CANT CHANGE THE PAST. RIGHT? WELL ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS WAS WITH ME AND SHE KNEW ALL ABOUT IT. SHE ENDED UP TELLING J* WHAT HAD HAPPENED EVEN AFTER I TOLD HER NOT TO. WELL THAT HAD HAPPENED A MONTH AGO. AND NOW I AM WITH THE BOY I SLEPT WITH. BUT I JUST FOUND OUT LAST FRIDAY THAT L* MY EX BEST FRIEND HAD SEX WITH J* AND I WAS SO DEPRESSED. I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO DO. EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A BOYFRIEND ALL I THINK ABOUT IS J*. HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND HOW BAD HE WANTS ME BACK. WELL I WANT HIM BACK TOO AND HE IS DATING L* NOW. LAST NIGHT I TRIED TO KILL MYSELF BECAUSE OF IT. I JUST GOT OUT OF THE HOSPITLE. AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I WANT TO FORGIVE HIM AND BE BACK WITH HIM. I MEAN L* IS LITERALLY A HOE. SHE SLEEPS WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE AND CHEATS ON EVERY BOYFRIEND SHE HAS. I DONT WANT HER TO DO IT TO J*. PLUS I WANT TO BE WITH HIM SO BAD. BUT THEN I AM SCARED HE WILL CHEAT ON ME WITH HER AGAIN. WHAT DO I DO? PLEASE HELP ME. I DONT THINK I CAN LIVE WITHOUT HIM.
First thing you should do is to get some psychological help for yourself. Ask your school nurse or psychologist how to get some professional help. What I am going to say is not a substitute for a real counsellor.
I think you and J* should forget the past, stop worrrying about the future and get back together again. You were together for a long, long time and breaking up was not a good thing to do.
So, since you both love each other, call him up or see him and tell him that you are sorry you broke up with him and you want him back.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com