Just need some advice if I should carry on...
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Met this guy through one of the internet dating websites last august and exchanged mails and calls for a couple of months. Decided to meet him and we have spent a few days together. We were connected, at least this is how i fee about the whole "relationship". Had sex with him and we parted after that. He was posted overseas and initially, we were still quite passionate and exchange mails etc. The sad part is not even a single call from him, only emails and ecards. He never ever reply any of my mails to him...
I tried parting with him a few times because I just find that it is not easy to sustain a long distant love. Recently again, I tried but fail...I am always the one who wish to patch back. He seems to be cold towards me lately... He ever told me that he loves me and still cares for me... I just feel for him even though I know this relationship may not even work out fine...
Just need some advice if I should carry on... I always long for him to write or call me but never... He claimed that he doesn't go round fooling and I am the only one now that he still cares... I seriously feel that I need to make a decision somehow...I am really feeling troubled and miserable because of this...is affecting me a lot...
You need to have a talk with him.
If he can't call you, then you call him and put it on the line. Be gentle, caring, honest and trusting and tell him the troubles you are having maintaining a relationship with him.
Tell him the things you want him to do to make you happy. If he isn't willing to do them for you then that tells you something. Ask him what he wants from you too. How long until he comes back? And will it still be long-distance?
If he is reposted to a different place when he returns then my advice is to get yourself out of this romance... or move to where he is going to be. But it sounds more like a break up situation.
-- from George
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