i have been in love with the memory of when we were in love
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex was 17 and I was 20, and we dated for 11 months, it's been 15 months. Through are whole relationship we have been through everything, her treatment, parents dissaproval, friends dislike, my drug habit, her cheating on me, her falling out of love and back in. Stuff no other guy would tolerate. Finally I broke up with her against my hearts desire ( to give her space )after 2 weeks i wanted her back, she wouldn't do it this time (twice before). but we acted like we were together. Then she started giving me all of the signs she was not intersted, yet called everyday and still slept with me. A month ago, she told me that she was not in love with me anymore after a long stretch of being unsure.Yet still called almost too much, and acted like I wouldn't move on. Got used by some guy in a desperate attempt to show me she moved on, then slept with me after before telling me. Then she got real drunk and slept with one of her guy friends, came running back to me only to completley go cold the next day. A week and a half ago, she met a guy. told me she was "with him" but not dating, and she wouldn't ever take me back. i pleaded my love for her. Didn't talk for a week ( longest time in a year ). She started calling me, told me that she didn't want me to hate her. I stopped in her work looking my best, and played real cool. She called later that night, and wanted me to come and hang. When I went to meet her she just blasted me with, I am so happy that I moved on and I am with so and so. i gave up on you. later i went back, told her I couldn't help but love her. she said she felt bad. wasn't trying to hurt me. gave me hugs. That was two days ago. Last night I ran into her at the gas station. She told me she got asked out tonight, and she was done with me. Told me to move on. Said she had no feelings for me. Treated me like I ruined her life. When seriously I have done more for her than anyone. I know that right now I shouldn't be with her. but, I still care about her so much, and realized i have been in love with the memory of when we were in love.
We just both went through so, so much bad, together.
depressed acting the last 4 months. Pressing the matter too much. I have been the first guy though that has ever treated her like a queen, all her ex's were abusive. I also have put myself in a position of having few friends, now that she's gone. I'm scared to be alone, want her back, don't know if it's crazy to, and would please like your advice for what I should do. One good thing is that next week I am moving out of my parents, a couple suburbs away from her. Please give me direction. I do still love her and want another chance to end up with her, if you think there is a chance. thanks so much
Realistically the signs are not good for you.
You have tried to be her friend with good and bad results.
You hang out sometimes together. It is good that you are moving out from your parents since that gives you more privacy if you need it.
Best thing you can do is check in on her once a week and ask her how she is doing. Make sure she knows you still love her but don't discuss your relatiionship because it is a tender topic right now.
Hope things work out for you!
-- from George
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