He called and said he wants to fight for me.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I dated R for 2 years, our parents never really liked the idea though, they dint have anything against us, but they just never got along, after 2 yrs of pressure from them, we decided to break it off n be friends thinking we had no future and it would be harder to let go later, if we continued. After a year or so, i met a guy, online, we chatted often, very often, after 6 mths we decided to meet, and of course...we had chemistry. we dated...long distance is hard but we did it for 9 mths. It was during this time, we had both gone to Singapore to meet. All this while my ex has been a very close friend of mine. He knows i like this new guy, lets just call him A. I was about to tell him about the trip once i had gotten back but he found out before hand. He called and said he wants to fight for me. And there...i felt pulled back, i felt i had never moved on in the first place. I asked A for time off, i felt i was betraying him just by having thoughts of R. And right now, I dont have A and R is still just a friend. I miss A, i want him back but why do i feel i need more time? is R stopping me subconsciously? Do I want to go back to him? Whom do I love? A or R? What do i have for them? love or attachment and towards whom? Please help me, Thankyou.
I don't think you love A or R. You have an attachment to both of them that won't let you leave one or the other.
If you have to choose, my advice is to choose R because he is closer.
-- from George
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