I'm what one would call empathic
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay... I'm what one would call empathic.. I can feel the emotions of others, which has really hurt my love life, cuz I sometimes can't tell whether the emotion "love" is mine or my partener's... I've met a man whose like me... Who knows what its like to feel all the pain and confusion of others, and when I talk to him, its absoloutely amazing, its like looking in the mirror, we have much in common.
My problem is, I'm afraid to tell him I love him... I tell him I care about him all the time, but I want him to know I love him, but telling people I love them has hurt me so much in the past. Do I tell him I love him and risk hurting both of us, after I've promised him I'll do everything within my power to keep him from getting hurt? He's been hurt so many times before... Or do I not say it, and live with the only only emotion I'm sure thats mine within me?
My Most Sincere Thanks,
Tell him that you don't want to be hurt and you don't want to hurt him but that you love him.
Discuss the fact that most relationships end in hurt and there is no reason to believe that your's won't too. If you go into this with you eyes wide open, the pain will be less is you split up.
You can't stop loving because you have been hurt before or because your beloved has been hurt been before. It just doesn't work that way.
-- from George
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