When she broke up, it also helped me in that she opened up me eyes in what I wanted to do in life
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago. Her reasons were because she felt we were growing apart and that she needed to figure out things on her own. We had been going out for almost 3 years, but she felt during our last year, that I just wasn't as supportive, outgoing, and loving as a boyfriend as I used to be... and that it would be more difficult since she was moving home... and I was staying near where I graduated school
When she broke up with me, it also helped me out in the sense that she opened up me eyes in what I wanted to do in life. My direction in life wasn't what I wanted to do, and her breaking up with me made me realize I had to change.
When she broke up with me, she also left to go to the Philippines for a month to learn more about herself. In the meantime, I felt that I really have changed as a person... in a way... I am that same guy she fell in love with when we first met... and in a way, I changed more for myself and not for her... simply because her breaking up with me was the spark I needed to change in general. Now because of my new direction in life, I will also be moving home... which is near where she will moving.
So when she came back from the Philippines after a month, she was quite overwhelmed with myself... as I really am not the same person as before... if not better. But when I asked her if we had a chance to give it another go, she said she feels it is too late... and that she does not want to get back with me for the wrong reasons. She's not the type of person to just go out there and date... she just waits for something to happen... and she let me know that she kind of wants to date also to consider possibilities.
She told me she does see change in me... but she stopped loving me the way she used to months ago... and that she was just being 'comfortable' with me... which is why she let it keep on going. She definitely sees the change for the better with me... but I don't know how it plays into have her again...
I do love her more than ever now and I severely want to get back with her. Right now she considers me her best friend... and we'll be very local now. I am willing to be her best friend no problem... but how do I go about getting her back... and what are my chances? I need her back...
For being broke up, you are in the best position you can be.
Being her best friend is the key to getting back with her. Be there for her whenever she needs a shoulder to lean on. Let her share her feelings with you.
You can continue to change what you can to make yourself more attractive to her. This all isn't easy to do, but worth it if you really want her.
-- from George
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