He is to start a job soon and I know things will get better for him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
(I am 28) He broke up with me due to losing his job. It was only to be a separation. Within the 1st month not being together, He told me he would not be involved with other women. HE just needs his time alone and to think of himself, so he can get back on his feet. We have spoke since then, but within the past month he has cut back on contact so that he may focus on getting back on his feet. Just the hard part is missing "us". He hasn't been himself since he lost his job and his emotions toward me in the recent 2 1/2 weeks have changed from saying he misses me too, ect., to: I found out that he started up again looking for girls on the online dating sites. For the past month its been where we shouldn't be talking and I'm not to contact him till he's ready. He's been more strict about it since mid August. It has been hard to tell in the past 2 weeks how he feels for me because of the being thrown by the online thing. One day is we have a chance (but he won't come straight out and say it) to another day is just uncertainty. I've been good and been given him time. But yesterday, my emotions got the best of me and I wrote him a text msg to his phone, that wasn't to be sent and I hit the wrong button. It started out that I tried to retract by leaving a voicemail apology, to respect his no contact until he calls me wishes and he responded and told me that we had a chance but I blew it because I didn't listen to him and any chance we had even as friends is gone. He claims he is erasing me from his life and from his heart. This is a good man worth fighting for or I would quit! I am forbidden any communications with him. I feel he still has love for me but is burying it. He is to start a job soon and I know things will get better for him and matters that overwhelmed him will get straightened out. We Deserve our chance with each other, Our love is very beautiful!! What can be done?
Losing his job was a big blow to his ego and one byproduct was his breaking up with you.
Now that he is getting a new job, perhaps things will change in your direction. Give him a chance to get his feet back on the ground (about two weeks to a month) then give him a ring and ask him how he is doing.
With any luck he may call you before that.
I hope so!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com