I would like to know if he still has feelings for me orr am I nuts??
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Hi I had emailed before for some previous advice. My ex boyfiend and I (I am gay) had been "apart" for about 4 months or so. Things hav been going OK, I guess, up until this past week. My birthday was last week. He sang to me on the phone (it was a song called "Fantasy Man.") He said I wantd to hear him sing it (which I don't recall). I laughed and had tears at the same tiime. But he goes on to say "I didn't do this because I we're boyfriends or anything." (I thought "whatever")
A couple nights later he calls me at 8:15. I didn't answer the phone. He left me a message. He then calls me at 11:23 (when I'm in bed), leaves a message, calls back and asks if I was sleeping. I told him yes. So I get a phone call the next morning before I leave for work (we work together) he asks me if I was up. I said yes, but then I didn't see him all day (I purposely avoided him). He then wanted to know where I was. I told him I called off (yes, I lied.) Basically, he told me he had called the previous four times because he was affraid I got mugged or something while I was out for my walk.
This past Monday, I asked for a ride home from work, he got an atiude with me and said he doesn't want to start doing that everyday. I reacted angrily and went back inside from break. He emailed an apology to me, but I think That was the last straw. I had to reply back to him and ask him what he was afraid of? Seems like everytime he wants to get close he pulls away in fear? I haven't spoken to him in 2 days.
I would like to know if he still has feelings for me orr am I nuts??? Why else would he be worried about me??? Am I right for giving him space so he can decide or miss me?
It seems that he still has feelings for you. But they are confused and tortured in nature.
It's hard to fathom the phone calls and what he meant by them. Perhaps you should have a heart-to-heart with him and ask him his intentions.
Most of what you said could be resolved by better communications between you two and that is what I would recommend.
-- from George
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