And he has given himself to me totally and also his heart to me

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Dear sir/Madam,

Ok let me get to the the problem.....My boy friend's ex girl friend has bein calling and texting him lately. And I even found thet he's keeping some of her text messages in her phone inbox.And he has deleted all of mine. He said he deleted my texts cos he doesn't want his mum to find out that he and I are close cos his mum is against us. Most of the time when I'm on the phone with him she calls.(She's in UK at the moment)But he tells her that he's on the phone with me and hang up the phone. Today in the morning again she called. She had asked whether he still got the ring he ave her. Cos he had asked back for it after they broke up. He said he gave the ring to her to show that he's committed to her. He still has the ring with him. He said he keeps it cos it means a lot to him amnd remids him that how he was committed to her and since he's no longer committed it should be with him. But I think he's still not over her.( but he's the one who broke up with her. cos he felt that they are not connecting well) He said that she didn't treat him well.And he also said that she never gave herself in. And it was a one way thing. He has not said that he loves me still. But I think he do. He treates me really well. He cares about me a lot. And I love him a lot. I have never told him that. But he knows that. Cos he said he knows how i feel about him. He says that he feels strong about me. And he has given himself to me totally and also his heart to me. But to let things flow....without making thing happend. Let it come naturally. But its hard for me cos I love him a lot and i don't know why he's holding back...I'm so hurt! Please help me!!! I don't want loose hime! I love him too much! I have gone through very bitter experiences before. My ex bo friend dumped me for another woman. He got married to her last month. I'm scared that it will happend again. But not get dumped over his ex girl friend. Sigh...................Peases please tell me what to do???? I'm soooooooooo depressed!

Rameesha Advice
Since "And he has given himself to me totally and also his heart to me" as you said, what is your cause for depression?

What more could you ask of a loved one?

Do not worry about his ex. As long as you have heart-to-heart conversations with him and continues to avow his love for you then you have nothing to worry about. In fact, worrying so much could cause troubles for you.

I hope things work out for you!

-- from George
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