he said: We Are OVER, stop calling me!!

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Hi George, I purchased your e-book few months ago and I tried to follow all your instructions, hmm, my situation is in a very tricky situation that is why I would like to ask u more advices again, Thank you for replying, I really appreciate it.

To cut it short, let me tell u my case: I stayed together with my ex guy for about 3 months, we had the best honey moon periods ever until problems appeared and we decide to break up, I was so desperate when he left me coz I treated him my best when we stayed together, but then I soon realize to behave maturely and tried my best to communicate with him in order to fix our mistakes and asked him to give us a chance to start a new loveship, he rejected me. He used to avoid me for the 4 months of our broken up period, I did the mistakes as u mentioned in your e-book like begging him back and chasing him.

Then he used to scold me, rejected to meet me and hanged up my calls for the past 4 months after the break-up, but then I slowly crafting my ways to get him back, I did not stop any contact with him by SMS as suggested by the psychology adviser that I contacted, He suggested me to keep SMS-ing him once a day or so, just write, even though my ex never replied my SMS, the adviser also said that if cut all contact with him, it will benefits him. Then I purchased your e-book and got shocked with your advices, but I did not really cut any contact with him as you recommended, I did not meet him for the past 5 months but just SMS-ing him twice a week or so but I did all your other advices like dating casually with others.

Now I heard that he is on the RE-BOUND loveship with someone new (I think just started last month), but the strange things, he started to reply my SMS and contacting me since last July 2005, and he also changed a lot, he cares to me when I sick, offered helps when I am in troubles and planned to visit me soon. I wonder with this guy, is he playing a game with me? I WANT HIM BACK, what to do? Please DO NOT tell me to MOVE ON and forgetting him, please please .I do not want to hear that advice ever again, I want him back , what to do when I meet him end of this month? He is coming to visit my house and planned to stay for 3-4 days, I want him back, is it good or bad to have sexual relations with him? Or just tease him and let him begging for more? I am headache and have no idea. This is my chronological love period:

Nov 2004-Mid Jan 2005= Me and my ex stayed together in one rented house, we had bestest romantic honey moon

End of Jan 2005= We got troubles and broke up

February-March 2005= I chased him and did mistakes like begged him back, so he cut all contact with me, did not wish to meet me and speak to me at all, refused to communicate with me at all, hanged my calls.
April-June 2005= I consulted the adviser and purchased your e-book as well, and did SMS-ing him sometime but he still never reply and did not wish to accept my calls, and mocked me when I called him to say Hi, he said: We Are OVER, stop calling me!! And meanwhile I heard he had moved on and pursuing a new girl he likes

July 2005= all of sudden he replied all my SMS and start to have a contact with me so I kept in touch with him by SMS/CALLS/EMAILS

August 2005= he told me he wanted to come to my place to visit me and have a chat with me this end of Sept 2005 but he TOLD me that he got new lover already and I also told him that I found my new guy (this is FAKE, i have no new guy)

Sept 2005 until Today= I changed my plan and follow all your advices to act as FRIEND so he did not feel any pressure when he meet me later on, I changed my behaviour, I talked nicely to him and never asked him back again, I purposely date his close friend and he is so jealous over it. I made a FRIENDSHIP AGREEMENT with him as well to indirectly show him that I am not interested to ask him back as lover.

STRANGE rite??? I want him back, what to do George ????

Pleaseeeee advice me, this is very important.

Thx a lot

RomanceClass.com Advice
Sounds to me you have been jumping all around the place trying different strategies to get him back.

My advice, as usual, is to be his friend, make sure he knows you love him, and have heart-to-heart talks with him with honesty, caring, trust, and faithfulness. Only by sharing your heartfelt thoughts can you hope to get him back, in my opinion. Games and lies will be detected very quickly and undermine your potential relationship.

As long as what you are saying feels true at the moment you are ok.

Good luck!

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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