We recently broke up and he said that he was unhappy with our relationship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I am 19 and my ex is 25. We were together for a year and I got pregant and had an abortion. We had alot of problems but we still really loved eachother. We recently broke up and he said that he was unhappy with our relationship and that we both were not happy. He says he just wants to be friends. He also says he misses me, thinks about me, he loves me, he cares so much for me, and he will never not be attracted to me. One of the reasons we broke up is because he felt like he was being more of a father figure to me. After being broke up everytime we spend time together it is so nice, but then I go crazy and I start talking about wanting him back and then he goes crazy and pushes me away. I spent the night with him the other night even though he said it wasn't a good thing, no matter how much we wanted to do it. During that night he cuddled alot with me, and then that night he went to see his ex which he has been for awhile. I know it isn't any of my buisness but i am jealous and he said "baby i would tell you if I was seeing someone." I also know that he is really depressed right now. I just don't know whether to move on or what???PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE
Despite his attraction to you, he doesn't want a close relationship.
You should respect his feelings and not push him hard on getting back together. Instead, remain his good friend and hope that the attraction for romance returns.
Talk with him about his comment on "father figure." This could be the key to understanding how he feels. Try to figure out what he is depressed about.
-- from George
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