I am going out or dating a married guy..don't even know how to call It
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am going out or dating a married guy..don't even know how to call It..I met him a couple months ago. He's from Atl,Georgia and I am from NY. The day we met he didn't say anything about that he was married until days later he told me and gave me the chance to say goodbye to him but it was already late for me to say goodbye cause my feelings for him were strong enough for me saying goodbye to him I couldn't let him go.I have been a couple times already in Georgia to visit him and viceversa, he comming here to New York and we call each other every day. He has been married for 9 years but after she had the baby everything changed between them he even have told me that he hasn't been sexuality active with her since then..(2 years to be exactly) Something that I doubt it sometimes..I have asked him to please be honest with me..he is always claiming that he have been always honest with me even after he lied the first time telling about his status ..I don't know what to do I want to stop seeing him but right now I don't see any future for us..Because I haven't see any moves from him working on an inmidiate results for us . I really care for him and don't want to loose him but at the same time I don't want to put my life on hold with out not having a guarantee that he will be just with me one day .What should I do???..I'm desperated..Please tell me what to do. Thank you!
Ask him what his intentions are with respect to you.
Don't accept a "I don't know" answer. The answer is the most important thing to you right now. In fact if he doesn't promise to leave his wife, you should drop him right now.
I hasten to add that I'm not in favor of breaking up marriages, but this one seems very unsuccessful. If he says he is staying with her you might want to suggest marriage counseling to him.
-- from George
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