Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hey i submitted a question a couple months ago, involving a situation i'm in with this girl who i met online 3 years ago. i started to develope feelings for her after about 2 years of talking to her, despite that being the LAST THING on my mind... it just happened naturally and one day it just hit me that she seemed like a great person to be with. anyways, recently i flew to meet her for the first time in person - and it was incredible. the connection was just as much there in person as online/on the phone, if not, more so in person. it was awesome. we aren't in an online relationship or anything like that, but we do have strong feelings for eachother and have expressed our desires to be together in the future. a couple months ago she started seeing someone and is now with him. we've talked about it... and we are on the same page. the distance is just taking its toll. and we both agree that it would be stupid to not look around or see other people since unfortunatly at this time in our lives we aren't able to be together no matter how much we want to. im not sure exactly what to do. i care about this girl beyond words, and she knows this. i know im young [only 20] but i really think this might be the real deal. i've never felt such an amazing connection with anyone or had so much in common with anyone before. i sometimes get the feeling i've known her forever, just never knew who she was... if that makes sense? i guess my question is what is the best way to go about this? i want nothing more than to be with this girl, hopefully forever but i gotta take it one step at a time. i've made up my mind i would be more than willing to relocate to be with her [we're about 1,000 miles apart], i'm just not in the situation to do so right now. how do i handle the wait and the fact that shes with this other guy? the last thing i want is for her to get really close to him, but at the same time i want her to be happy.. and i don't want to come in between them. she really doesnt seem to be really happy in the relationship, he's already made sexual comments to other girls while he was drunk, and while she was right next to him. soo i really wouldnt say its smooth sailing as of now, but i still worry it will bring us apart if she does happen to get closer to this guy. i just dont know what to do. any help would be appreciated. thanks.
The best you can do is just keep the online conversation going as usual and be her shoulder to lean on.
The guy she is seeing sounds pretty weak so you shouldn't worry too much about him.
Make sure she knows your feelings about her and that you want to move closer to her. If she is at all intelligent she will wait for you.
-- from George
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