I have some sort of contact with her every week its just not good contact
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey...Real simpley I went out with my girl for 3 1/2 years...We had ups and downs we moved in together but I caught up with a bad crowd and started ignoring her. She said she needed to get out of our situation and move out and we couldnt be friends for awhile b/c she was very hurt. I fixed my social life and got my head on straight but I never stopped calling her b/c I wanted to get back with her so bad. To this day I have been calling her once a week at least and texting her at like 1 am on weekends telling her I missed her. Everytime we speak Im pleading with her to take me back..Now want I want to know , we have been broken up 4 months but really I have some sort of contact with her every week its just not good contact. She says I pressure her and she has to figure her life out but cant until I leave her alone...Well I am scared to but I guess I have to...If I start leaving her alone now do you think I have a shot at getting her back ? we havent not spoken in more than a week in almost 4 years, Im scared to do it. Is it too late to begin giving her "space" ? Or has she not had enough time to miss me yet ?
You have hassled her so much that there is little hope of her coming back.
The best you can do is to stop calling her except once a month. And then don't talk about your relationship since that will turn her off. You can simply tell her you still love her but mention nothing else about your relationship.
If, after a while, you feel you have a good relationship with her again, you can gradually let her know more about your feelings.
But take one thing at a time and the first thing is to stop calling her so much.
-- from George
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