I have just recently gotten involved in a relationship with a 40 year old man
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am a 25 year old female attending college on a full-time basis. I have just recently gotten involved in a relationship with a 40 year old man who is coming out (6 months ago) of a 4 year relationship with his ex-girlfriend. I still live at home with my parents and a few days ago the ex of my “new” boyfriend had called my mom telling her that I am coming in between their relationship. My boyfriend had expressed to me that he has no intentions of going back to his previous relationship and that his ex is completely obsessed over him. My mom had threatened to kick me out if I continue to see this guy. I truly care about him and I’ve known him for quite sometime now (about a year). On top of that…he is “trying” to overcome his drinking habits. I have been very supportive of his decision but it seems as if with the problems that we are facing is causing him to turn back to his habits. I’m not really sure of myself, if sticking to this relationship is going to be beneficial in the long run. I do love and care for him but I just need advice in deciding to stick to this relationship or not.
If he has a drinking problem he belongs in Alcoholics Anonymous. Please try to direct him there. You don't have the skills to help him.
You are going to have to figure out to do about this relationship yourself. Your mother hasn't made your life easy with her threat to throw you out. His ex is a loose cannon.
Can you move in with him? Can you afford to live if your mother throws you out? Is she serious? Do you care enough for him to go through the strife that faces you? You have to answer these questions and make your decision.
-- from George
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