I am married not happily, I am trying to move out and we have four kids
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am married not happily, I am trying to move out and we have four kids so this is not easy, it is taking time. There is a guy friend and that is all he is for now,he has made it clear to my niece that when all is said and done there could be more between us. We talk on the phone and he is real good with the children as where their father is not. We see each other alot because he is a mutual friend of my husbands more mine these days. I just don't know what to do because I am afraid that it is a case where you always want what is not yours and I don't know how to act around him. I am afraid I am just a challenge or a game to him. I really have developed strong feelings for him and so have my children and I don't know what to do, please give me advice I want him to know how much he means to us but think I should wait until I am out of this current mess. But I don't want him to think I am not interested.Help me please. P.S. We are both shy and our phone conversations are kept strictly platonic on just the daily goings on in our lives.
You want to tell him you care about him at the same time you don't want to.
How about a happy medium. Tell him that once you are moved out you would like to have dinner with him. Listen closely to how he responds.
From how you describe your conversations with him, it doesn't sound like he is playing games. He is probably interested in you too. However, inheriting four children may be daunting to him.
At any rate, that is my advice... just tell him that you would like to have dinner with him once you are separated.
-- from George
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