im going to talk to her about why she was being so mean at our friends tonight
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
im sorry i keep sending you questions but i have trouble figuring some of this stuff out on my own. i try but i just cant get it. ok well, school just started last thursday for me. my gf and i dont have any classes together and the only times we see each other are before school for like 20 minutes and after school if we go and do somthing with freinds cause neither of us can drive and some of our freinds can. but lately ive been feeling really weird, at first i was thinking that she didnt want to be with me any more but i talked to her over the weekend while she was at her cabin and found out that she didnt, she actually thought that i was going to dump her but that was just because of how i told her that we needed to talk. so yeah, we talked every night she was at her cabin for a good hour or so and then she came back from her cabin on labor day and we hung out with friends and watched a couple movies, that was fun. but then tuesday it was just going to be us. she came over after school to help me dye my hair and one of my friends just randomly showed up in the middle of it so that kinda ruined it. and im not the kind of person who would just tell him to leave...plus he didnt have his car cause he was dropped off. so then tuesday turned into another friend day and later on in the evening i started to feel extremely stressed about things. almost to the point where i felt like buckling down and crying. so then i go to talk to my gf about it on aim and she told me that she was kinda bumbed that we had to hang out with friends and not just us but when i tryed to talk to her about how i was stressed and stuff all she said was "strange, it happens, and hmm" it was basicly me telling her why i was stressed and all she said was that. i felt a little better before i went to bed but not much. then today at school (wed.) i was just fine. i went through school alright but then we ended up going over to a friends house after school and the whole time we were there my gf kept mocking me and while i was trying to say somthing to another one of my friends she shhh'd me so she could say somthing to him. and every time she talked to me she sounded mad at me. now i dont even feel like were going out any more...we are...but i dont feel like we are. i love her for all the stuff she has done for me in the past and i DONT want to break up with her but im just hoping that she isnt feeling like this to cause i dont want her to break up with me. im going to talk to her about why she was being so mean at our friends tonight but id still like help on the other stuff. any help will do. thank you again.
You are doing the right things by sharing your feelings with her.
I still feel you two need more alone time together and you have to work real hard to make that happen. That is probably causing some of the stress you feel.
Go out for a walk in the park or by a river or lake and enjoy each other's company in private. You will be surprised at how good it makes you feel.
Best of luck!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com