He is only 15 but is more experienced than me - he is my first boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, yeah, it's me again. Okay, I have been dating this guy for about a month and a half now and he says he loves me all the time and I feel that I love him (as much as a 14 year old girl can understand love, anyway). He is only 15 but is more experienced than me - he is my first boyfriend. I see him a lot on the weekend but he hardly ever calls me during the week. A couple of weeks ago I found out from a very good friend that this guy gave his phone number out to 3 girls in school. He knew that my friend would tell me and he called me right away after school to explain. He said that he was just trying to get more people to go the bowling alley on Friday nights (where we always hang out together with our friends). He also said that one of the girls was the sister of one of his friends. Today I heard that he does not have a very good reputation. I have known him for about a year and have always known that he is a big flirt but he told me that he does not even flirt with girls any more, since he started going out with me. Today I heard that he is known for going after a girl until he gets what he wants and then dumping her and going after another girl. I think I am going to confront him but I do not want to be used. I am not going to be his Saturday night make-out buddy. I told him right from the beginning that there was no way I was ready to have sex with anybody and probably wouldn't be for years and he said that he respects me for that. I know that people can change and sometimes are not really true but I don't know how to handle this.
You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and you are doing all the right things.
Do have a long talk with him being gentle, caring, honest, and trusting. Bring up the concerns to have and what you've heard. Listen to his side of the story but don't let him get away with simple answers to difficult questions.
He will respect you even more after your conversation... and continue to have conversations about your feelings in the future. These talks are the glue that will keep you together.
-- from George
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