Throughout the whole process though, he has gone back and forth between the other girl and me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay, this is a very complicated situation. My best friend of five years and I started dating about a year ago, only a month after he broke up with another girl that he cared a great deal about. Now this girl he is with has only had two real relationships in her life, she is sheltered, and immature. When he was with her he complained about how much she whined and how she nagged and that he couldn't stand her family. When he and I dated, things were wonderful. His parents and my parents approved--and we all got along. This boy and I were absolutely in love.
Throughout the whole process though, he has gone back and forth between the other girl and I. Even when he was with her he was still sleeping with me.
About a month ago he told me that he wanted to be with me, but then he heard from the girl and I told him to go up and visit her and make sure he had no doubts. He went up to see her and decided he wants to be with her. He still tells me there is a chance for a future between us, because he doesn't like to close doors--but he wants to do all he can to be there for her right now. They are in a long distance relationship and he and I are here together. He recently slept with me, saying it was a one last time thing--but I get the feeling that his confusion about his feelings for me aren't over.
I am trying to be his best friend, and have been there--I want him in my life always, but I want him back. I want another chance with him. Please help me, is there any way I can get my man back without losing his friendship? What do I do?
You are doing exactly the right thing so keep it up.
The only change I would suggest is that you stop sleeping with him. It is in nobody's interest that you do so and can only lead to trouble.
Sorry you are in this situation!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com