I want this girl in my life and with me more than anything
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We got together during high school. We were both very in love, both intimately and emotionally. Sex was not a driving force in the relationship, as we both waited until we had been together for about 6 months. We both ended up attending the same college, this year being our freshman year. Recently, she decided that we should experience new things and possibly see other people. She said that she wanted to be a kid and that she felt guilty when she went out with her friends and partied and that she just needed some time apart to make sure that we are meant to be together. This came as a huge surprise to me because she hadn't hinted to this at all. Just prior to her deciding this she would call me constantly and even wanted me to come see her in the middle of the night. We acted totally happy together. She still talks to me alot and calls me every day. She tells me that she loves me whenever we talk. When we see eachother, she always kisses me when we say goodbye. I know that it isn't another guy, but she just needs her time. I definitely want to be able to get back together with this girl because I love her very much. I feel like crap but I understand that she wants to figure out what SHE needs so I am trying to give her her space, and if she does decide that it is me that she wants to be with, our relationship will be much better. The thing is though, she keeps calling me and I don't want her to try and stay this close to me if she thinks that she wants it otherwise for a while. I do want to talk to her, and I do want to stay close to her, but I think it would be better for her to make a decision if we didn't talk to eachother so much. I just want to give her the room she needs. I want her to be happy and be able to make the decision she feels that she needs without my interference. To sum it up, I'm pretty much just confused by the whole situation. I want this girl in my life and with me more than anything, but I dont want her to feel like she only wants to because of how I feel. I just want to know if there is anything i could do to or if I have a good chance of ever getting this girl back.
Seems like she is having trouble with how much space she wants. Apparently not very much.
The only way to find out what is going on is to have a nice long warm trusting intimate honest conversation with her and see what she has to say.
Until you do that, you will only be guessing which is frustrating.
My sense is that the two of you will eventually be back together.
-- from George
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