She said to me that she needs to face everything by herself for a while
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey. I emailed a couple of days ago about my girlfriend of 3 and a half years. Well last thursday we broke up. The reason being she told me that she needs to be solo for a little a while. She told me that she doesnt know who she is anymore, she doesnt know what she wants.
The really painful thing for me is that she told me i had done nothing wrong, she said she still loves me, she adores me and really cares about me she also said i am her best friend but she needs to discover who she is. Now i don't want things to end because we are great together. We both lost our virginitys together, we are each others first loves.
She is just so confused about everything and i fear she may be suffering from depression but i don't think she has identified that herself yet.
She said to me that she needs to face everything by herself for a while. She said that i was her safety net and that it didnt matter what the world threw at her that i would always want her and this somehow has scared her.
Now been together 3 and a half years and we havent moved forward since we fell in love, i mean we aint living together or anything like that.
The really confusing for me she said she might discover in a couple of months that she cant live without me but she also said i don't want u to wait around.
What do i do?I love her more than life itself and i do want to be with her, most of all i am really worried about her.
I am so helpless because i have done nothing wrong, a victim of my own success.
Thank you for your time
You will have to give her the space she needs.
Let her find out for herself what she wants.
Let her know that you love her and are waiting for her.
She said you were still best friends, so take advantage of that to check in with her every so often (twice a week?) to see how she is doing.
Sorry you are in this situation!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com