i decided to try and interact with my gf and climbed over the couch and got on her back
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hey. i asked a question a little bit back. this kinda has to do with the same deal. ok, well it was my gf's bestfriends birthday last saturday. it was a suprise birthday party so her and i showed up early along with a couple other friends to help set it up. everything was going fine until other people started ariving. like 30 minutes before her bestfriend was suppose to show up i started to feel like she was ignoring me cause she hadnt said anything to me in a while. after her best friend showed up and we suprised her i decided to try and interact with my gf and climbed over the couch and got on her back for a piggy back ride. then i got off and i was going to do it again and she said please dont. so i said ok fine im sorry ( but not in a mean way or anything) then she sayd ugh whatever. so im like ook just gonna step off for awhile. as the night went on she continued to not say much to me, but she did look like she was having an extremely good time. nearing the end of the party she started to notice that i looked a little bumbed out and she asked what was wrong and i said nothing cause i didnt really want to talk about with all those people around. at the end of the party i realized that all she had said to me once the party had started was "ugh whatever, shhh, are you ok, and somthing else but i cant remember" yeah so that night kinda sucked. i talked to her later on and she said that she was there to have fun and to talk to every one not just me. but seriously, out of the 8 hours we were there she only said like 4 or 5 things to me. but yeah, earlier today i was talking to her and i told her that i was feeling like we were slowly moving apart and she said that she felt the same way. this has me extremely worried. i dont want to lose some one this important to me. she treats me with so much respect and is always there for me. she also that i shouldnt worry about it cause school will be starting soon and we will probably see each other every day. idk if thats a good thing or not though. to me it is..but idk about her. i just want to know what i can do to make this all better.
oh to you what you told me earlier. we do go on real dates. we go and see a movie like once a week. but with friends...idk that matters or anything. we go to parks and beaches every now and then to. but mostly with freidns. whenever we do stuff alone its just usually hanging out at either my house or her house.
Try to spend a little more time with her alone so your relationship can grow in a positive direction.
Going out with friends is still ok but make sure you get some alone time too.
When you are alone talk about your feelings, her feelings, and your relationship. You will find out what she is thinking and based on that, you can take your next step. As you do this make sure you are very clear that you love her and want things to become better.
-- from George
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