Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i just caught my boyfriend lying to me. he told me last wednesday that he couldnt see me because he had to go to his daughter's back to school night. schools havent even started yet in his county. later that day when i talked tohim he, i asked him if he was going to the back to school night thing and he said yes. i said well its kinda wierd to have a back to school night when school hasnt even started yet. he said he would talk to me later and just hung up. he called me later that night but i didnt answer but when i called him back he didnt answer. then he sent me an email saying that he is leaving the area that i live and just wanted for me to look up something on a client for him (we work together). well the next day he called a few times and then finally i answered when i got a chance to. he started talking about work and he felt like i was giving him attitude and didnt want to talk to me anymore and hung up. i called him back and he picked up. he said that he didnt like my attitude with him right now. and i told him that i didnt appreciate him lying to me. he said he didnt want to talk about it. i asked him what i should be thinking right now and he said to think whatever i want, that he didnt care. i then called him later on and asked him if we could have a converastion like 2 civlized mature people and he agreed to. i told him that i wasnt questioning him or accusing him, i was just asking him something and i was trying to clarify this relationship. he said he didnt care what i thought of him, it doesnt affect him one bit. he said he was sick of this bs. i asked him what bs he was talking about, if it was teh fact that i questioned him for lying to me or was it our relationship. he said he didnt want talk about anything right now and got off the phone. the next day, he didnt pick his phone when i called regarding work. we communicated through email for most of teh day. he finally called me at work later in teh afternoon and we takled about work mostly. he asked me aquestion about one of his clients had sent back an application. i told him he did. then he was like i asked u that earlier and you ddint answer me. i told him that he didnt ask me about that at all. he then was like okay i am sorry, i apologize, i thoght i had asked you. he said that he didnt want me to think that he was lying to me and that he should get caught in lie. he said that i hurt his feelings when i asked him if he lied to me the day before. i told him that he hurt my feelings too by lying to me. he said that he wasnt talking to me so whatever. i tried to make it seem if i had just let go of the whole thing. i asked him if it was his turn to vent out at me today. he said yes, its my turn today. i am not sure of what do about this situation. he has completely retaliated against me. the way i should be acting towards for lying to me, HE is acting that way. i dont know if i should just wait to see if he ever tells me anything about why he lied to me since he did say that he didnt want talk about this right now. and i know he is a type of person that will talk about something when he is ready to. sometimes i feel like i shoudl just break up with him for lying to me but i dont want to jump to conclusions. maybe there is a reason for why he lied to me. but i cant get anyting out of him since he isnt talking to me right now, or so he says. i know if he try calling him or emailing him about this situation it would probably annoy him. Please help! what should i do?? shoudl i just end things with him or lying to me or should i wait until he tells me something?
You don't know what or if he was lying yet.
That should be your priority. It certainly looks like he was lying to you, but you better be sure of it before making any decisions.
Keep working on him about what was really going on that Wednesday and maybe you can find out for sure.
If you can't find out, then you are stuck in a sorry situation.
-- from George
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