finally i felt i had been pushed away and the only option was a break up
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Dear Romance Class,
My g/f and i recently broke up. things had been touch and go for about a month leading up to the break up. we had been together nearly 10 months. we had an amazing relationship, communication was great, we shared common interests, sex life was wonderful, we were both totally in love, and to this day we still have never had a serious fight. well about a month ago she began to change. she called less, and began to want to do other things (that didnt involve me). See, the complication with our relationship is age. She is 23, i am 19. so naturally she wanted to go out to clubs ext. and i could not. however i never had a problem with her going out. i never told her she couldent go somewhere or who to hang out with. and she did go out from time to time, but when she changed she was going out all the time and leaving me behind. she stopped saying i love you on the phone, and the sex life was rare at best. finally i felt i had been pushed away and the only option was a break up. when i did it she seemed sad, but pretty much accepted it and that was that. finally after about a week we talked and she said "she loved me but was no longer in love with me". i hadnt done anything to cause this, just a change of heart. i need to know, is there any chance of her felling back into love with me? i still love her very much. if so is there anything i can do to win her back?
If she is going to fall back in love with you, it will start with you being her best friend.
She will always need a friend she can go to with her worries and woes. Why shouldn't that person be you? If you can maintain that relationship with her, she might rekindle her love for you.
So, when you talk with her keep the conversation away from your own relationship, but make it as intimate as possible.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com