He is not ambitious and I want a husband who is ambitious and motivated like myself

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating since we were 16. I have never dated anyone else, but he has. We are now 19. We have been talking about getting married for a year or so, but I'm not sure he's the man I want to marry. I'm now in college and he dropped out of school during our sophomore year of high school. He has been working on his GED. however, he still hasn't gotten it. I have big dreams (owning my own business, purchasing and island one day) and he is content with just getting by. I'm afraid my goals have gotten in the way of my love for him. He is not ambitious and I want a husband who is ambitious and motivated like myself. We argue constantly over stupid things. I think it may be because I have some resentment for him not wanting to go to school, or do anything with his life. Recently we decided to have an open relationship because I told him I want to date other people to make sure he is the right one. He said ok. But I was wondering is this healthy, I love him as a person other than the arguing, which we both initiate. But our mentalities and views of the world are too different. Should I date other people or If I truly love him is this unhealthy.

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Seems your ambition has come in conflict with your love for him.

You broke up with in order to see other people and he agreed to it. So, you ought to see other people. It will clarify how you really feel about your bf.

My sense that unless you love him to pieces and he is everything you want, the relationship will not work well. You have identified a major difference in your personalities and want to date others.

I agree with you.

Good luck!

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