I removed myself off the one dating site I was on. However, he hasn't
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I tried searching for the answer to this but I couldn't find one that fit it so here goes. Six months into our relationship he told me he had been involved with another girl but when he saw my ad on a on-line dating site he wanted to get to know me. Long story short we entered into a serious relationship and have been together a year and a half now. I removed myself off the one dating site I was on. However, he hasn't. My problem? I don't trust him, he's still active and checking them daily and when I talked to him about my fears he gets upset and it's like I'm the one who's the bad guy. He is with me everynight so I don't believe he's seeing anyone, but to me him being on there signals that he's not really serious about me and that he's still telling the world hey look at me I'm still single and available, drop me a line. Part of me says walk away. Another part of me says stay and deal with it. We're not kids anymore... we're in our 40's. Am I being unreasonable? I know that Trust is important and that you need to have it... hard to have tho when you're afraid history will repeat itself and it'll be me on the short end of the stick while he's moved on to someone else.
Give him six months to quit this nasty habit. If he can't do it by then you will have to have something to hang over his head.
Are you ready to leave him over this? That would do the trick.
He knows he is doing wrong, you just need to find some leverage to make him stop. Or, perhaps you can convince yourself that it is just a hobby of his.
Something that turns him on as pornography might do.
This isn't an easy place for you to be.
My best wishes are with you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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