She still loves me very much, and I love her very much, but is there a future in this relationship?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I met this girl in a club at the start of the year. We began talking and exchanged numbers. A few weeks later we went on a date. Everything went excellently and we hit it off straight away. Since the first date we would see each other EVERY day. It didn’t take long for us to fall in love, and we love each other very very much. About 6 months down the line we started arguing about little things. It all came to a head after an argument and I called her a nasty name. She totally overreacted and said its over etc etc never want to see me again.
Since we “broke up” a month ago, we still see each other all the time, in fact there still hasn’t been a day since our first date we haven’t spoke to each other. We still kiss, hug, we’ve even had sex since the “break up”.
About a week after the break, she started going round another mans house. She would stay round 3-4 times a week. When I ask her about it, she promises they are just really good friends, however she has admitted she has slept in his bed with him. I find it hard to believe they are just friends, but if I can’t believe her who can I believe?
Anyway, just this weekend she found a picture on my mobile phone of a girl in her pajamas. This girl is a good friend of mine and I have been staying round her house recently, my ex knows this. She went absolutely crazy when she saw the picture, storming out of my house. I went for a drink with a friend straight after. To my shock, she came to the bar with all my belongings and presents I’ve ever bought her, and threw them at me. For the whole night we argued on the phone and she said she hates me, I make her sick, she never wants to hear from me again. I’m not even going out with her, so what would be wrong with me seeing another girl? She is seeing another man.
The very next day, I had to ring her for a lift because I lost my job. We got on fine. We hugged, and she supported me through the bad day I was having. The next day I called her again and she’s in a mood again.
I can’t go on like this, how we’re not together but she goes crazy if I’m with another girl. How I’m still her “boyfriend” but she doesn’t need to show me any commitment. I know she still loves me very much, and I still love her very much, but is their a future in this relationship?
You're living in a topsy-turvy world and it's hard to tell which end is up or down.
Tell her you love her and have been faithful. Then the ball is in her court. It seems she might be ready to get back together with you again.
And forget about arguing. Don't let petty little things come between you. Make a joking (but real) agreement that you will take turns "giving in" to the other when an argument pops up.
Your chances seem bright for a good future with her.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com