i would really like to talk one more time and get closure with her
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
i met my girlfriend when i was 20 and she was 16. we were together for four years. her parents were very critical of me to a point where my girlfriend would tell me things they were saying which made me feel less than-i avoided them instead of confronting them about it. one day she called me up and broke up with me as well as informing me that she was dating someone already. i was crushed. i had alot of trouble bouncing back from that and did not hear from her for one year. she began driving by my place and calling me. the guy she left me for was going to propose to her and she ditched him and came back to me. i took her back but i wanted to go slow-she wanted to go really fast. within two weeks she came on to me. she wanted me to travel with her when she graduated from college. i didn't want to travel but i helped her get an apt. and supported her emotionally through her first year out of school. she wanted me to be with her-i hesitated- then i gave it a try and moved in with her. i gave up my job with- her support and encouragement- when i did she changed in about a month wanting her space. i moved out on good terms asking her if i owed her anything and thanking her with a hug for everything. i gave her space. a month later she called me and said she was moving back to the city where i live. another month goes by she calls and says to me she is dating someone and she wanted us to be married and settle down but it didn't work out.so now she has this rebound mystery boyfriend she was seeing before we broke up. this hurt me and out of jealousy and defence i lied and said i had been out with a couple of people. two months go by and she calls again to wish me happy birthday. but i didn't get to talk to her in person she left a message. she said she is still seeing someone. i tried to call her back asking that we talk so i can get some closure because i am hurting and feel that she is hurting too-that's why she is behaving the way she is.i love this girl but the pain just pushes me away. now she won't answer her phone or call back. i would really like to talk one more time and get closure with her. any suggestions on how i can do this?
Either write her a letter or leave a voicemail telling her you would like to meet one last time to get some closure. She owes you at least that after all the years and all she has put you through.
It's possible she doesn't want closure judging from her prior behavior.
-- from George
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