he's been living with the mother of his child for 5 years
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
i have been seeing this guy for sometime now and we are really into each other. he's been living with the mother of his child for 5 years he moved her in because she got pregnant (3 months into dating her) and he says nothing is and has not been going on for a very long time (about 4 years) they argue all the time and i do believe him, he still takes her to family functions even though they are not a couple. when will he realize that this is not healthy him and the child? when will and what can i do to help him realize this? but in a way where he does not think i am pushing. thanks.
I really doubt you can say anything to change his situation.
They've been living together for five years and have a child. They go to family functions together. He tells you they fight a lot.
How can you convince a man to stop living with the mother of his child? The only real argument is that they are arguing in front of the child, but that isn't too unusual. Apparently socializing with family together is a pleasure to him or he wouldn't do it.
My advice is to either leave him or stay with the status quo and keep living the way you do now. You could mention the excessive arguing if you think that would make a difference. You could ask him if he ever thinks of leaving his live-in partner. Maybe that will get him thinking... but I doubt it.
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