she just doesn't know where her sex drive went
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have been with my current girlfriend for about 2 years, and for about the past year, ever since we moved in together, she hasnt been interested in sex very much.weve talked about it and she says its got nothing to do with me,that i satisfy her, she just doesnt know where her sex drive went, and its happend before with other people. Anyway, its starting to interfere with our relationship. I used to live with her last "friend with benefits" while i was seeing someone else a few years back. they werent even together to the point of being a couple but beleive me, she never seemed to have a problem with sex with him. Its left me feeling left out and extremely jealous and suspicious of her. Why all of the sudden the dry spell with me? I love her and care about her very much, but im starting to wonder if im being used, (i pay the majority of the bills while she's in college) if shes cheating, if i just dont satisfy her like her other partners have,(we both have had a few other relationships/partners her 8 me 6), i just dont know what to do anymore. we have talked about many times and she says she cant handle the pressure of sex anymore. please help me, i dont want to leave her but i feel left out and unwanted because of this.
You are perfectly justified in feeling the way you do.
There could be many reasons why she has lost interest in sex and she may not even know the reason why.
My advice is to find a counselor with expertise in sex therapy. Call a counselor from the phone book and if they aren't right ask them for a reference.
This is probably the only way to get to the reasons behind her behavior and the other choice is to break up with her.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com