And to be honest, i'm jealous of not being about to have what they have with anyone
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
ok, so i'm 19. I've never had a boyfriend, or any sexual encounters. I recently fell in love with one of my closest friends, we'd been talking a lot since christmas, when we kissed. As much as i have tried, i cannot keep him out of my head.
We've been on a couple of 'dates' but only as friends, nothing more. I told my best friend about my feelings for him, to let her now that i like him a lot, because she has also had feelings for him.
A month later, she text me to tell me that she is dating him.
I went abroad for a week's holiday, and got over him, almost. I still harbour some feelings for him, but love him as a friend. Unfortunately his girlfriend (my best friend) doesn't trust me not to make a move or try something, and doesn't like me talking to him, or texting him. I'm not like that, and would never do anything like that, but i do still talk to him, despite what she says. I need to know if there is anything i can do about this situation.
I've limited myself to only seeing them together once a week (less if i can help it), but when i see them together, i think about what i'm missing out on, the closeness of a relationship that i used to be apart of, and am not anymore, and also the closeness people share as a could. And to be honest, i'm jealous of not being about to have what they have with anyone.
What can i do? I now it's a complicated situation.
You are in a tough situation and it sounds like you are handling it well.
Keep doing what you are doing, but start working very hard to find a boyfriend of your own. You need some companionship and romance in your life and you can't wait and hope your friends break up.
We have tips on how to find a date you could look at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/8719
Hope they help you!
-- from George
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