But our lives seem to have alot of unforseen issues every way we turned
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My ex broke up with me about a month ago. We were living together and he has recently moved out. The says he tired of trying. Before me and him got together i had just came out of a five year abusive relainship and did want to start another one. But when i saw T i just fell hard. I did tell him from the very beganing that i need to take it slow. But our lives seem to have alot of unforseen issues every way we turned. I understand that he just wants to wake up and be happy no stress but living is stress one way or another. To me there will always be problem lurking around the corner but its how you see those problem and what you make of them. I fell when you love some one you stand by them thur there problem like they stand by you. He on the other hand dosnt think the same way. Yesterday was a brecking piont for me!!!! We had a talk and during this talk he gave me back the spare key to my car and house saying " That i need to cut the ties completly every time i see you all i can think about is you and how much i love you, i cant deal with seeing you any more i trying to stop loving you. Please stop calling me and talking to me i need time to get over you"
Why dose he need time he broke up with me??
I love him so much and now im suppose to help him in the goal to stiop caring about me ???
I just want to be with him but i do know that its a two way street.. How do i deal with this what would you do if the person you loved said that they dont want to try anymore thta they want to stop loving you???
I'mm dying inside I do love him enought to cut the ties but i cant just stop loving the best thing that has happened to me. I also know that i could find another fantastic guy but T was the guy for me. I was so fafilled in out relsinship but i didnt know how to show it!!!!
I 've told him all of this but nothing seem to help, he say's that i just want him back be cause THATS WHAT I WANT...
Love is a funny thing !!!
Please let me in on a peice of your mind!!!!
What should i do?????
If you have been contacting him a lot in the past month, stop contacting him for a week or two. This may give him time to think things over and realize that he wants to be with you.
If after two weeks he hasn't contacted you, give him a call and ask him how he is doing. Then wait another two weeks and call again.
By that time, if things haven't changed you ought to drop him and move on.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com