Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i need some help!!!, theres this girl in my class, and i really like her, but i cant seem to figure out a proper way to be nice to her. this sounds weird, but believe me its not, cause i asked her out too soon a while back, now she is a lil frightened by me. i would like to act kindly towards her, compliment her, do great things, but unfortunately, this may scare her a bit more, and therefore i wount be able to ask her out again when the time comes since im tryin to become good friends.
im worried that if i seem to keen to be kind, she might become suspicious. I need help, and please dont get me wrong, i would really love to be kind and nice to her, and i am, but not as much as i could be because im worried, can u help me
You need to be a friend, not a Cassanova. If you are overly nice and courteous and such she'll suspect you're just buttering her up for another "attack" which might worry her. But friends are friends without all of that. So say hi when you pass, ask how she's doing. Share with her how you're doing. I think if you keep it light and friendly for a while, she'll relax and realize you are a friendly and not-stalking individual.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com