but this seems blatently like cheating, am i right or am i wrong?

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hi, me and my girlfriend have been debating a certain issue. she says that it would be appropriate if she had sex with someone else (infront of me only)as long as there was no love involved, or if she ... say... made out with someone else if we were playing truth or dare with i dont know... my friends or something.
the thing is ... she says that she would never want to do any of these things, but at the same time says that theres nothing to get mad at if they were to happen, because there is no love involved.
i am a good listener, but this is very very serious. i honestly dont see eye to eye with her on this. but we usually see eye to eye on everything.
the thing is - when i try to let her see what it feels like when i say well how would you feel if i did that with a girl, and she said she wouldnt care as long as i didnt love the person. this seems very odd to me, and i know 100% that she would never do these things because i trust her, and this came up because it was a "what if" question... and i said personally, that i would be hurt if she did that stuff... am i right or am i wrong? i've learned to cope with her fantasy of watching pornography as an aphrodesiac... but this seems blatently like cheating, am i right or am i wrong?

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If she asks you hypothetically how you feel about her suggestion tell her you think it would be cheating.

That's how you feel about it so why not just come out and tell her?

I think over 95% of the population would agree with you. I think she is trying to find out if you are one of the 5% who feel like her.

Good luck!

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