He holds me and listens to my problems and shows me intimacy
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and i love him with all my heart. He is the only guy I have ever realy respected. He is 21 years old and he works 24/7 and acts like an old man. He hates dancing and clubing, Which is my passion. He refuses to go with me ,though, i have told him time and time again i would really like for him to go with me. I am only 19 and i have had nothing but longterm relationships and i feel like i just wanna party and have fun and i want a bf who i can have fun with. We were friends at first and he was so fun and then he changed and it has been nothing but hell since we got together. Of course I still go out and do my own thing. He is also not sweet and affectionate like i would like him to be. So for the past nine months i have been talking to this guy off and on and i tell him everything. Im not attracted to him but he is just everything that my bf is not. He holds me and listens to my problems and shows me intamacy. He also is fun to party and with and because of this I just let myself go when im around him. I know I dont want to be with him but i just cant quit talking to him. I have also cheated on him with one other ex whom i met at a club and we got drunk and went skinny dipping. I have broken up with him several times with the intentions that we wont get back together but then i always start to miss him and i always think that someday i will marry him no matter what and he says the same thing. We always end up back together because we miss each other to much. What do you think my problem is because i cant figure myself out?
You two are the right persons at the wrong time.
He is working too much and is acting too old for you. You want to party and have a good time.
As hard as it sounds, you need to tell him the whole truth about how you feel and what you have been doing. You cannot have a whole relationship with him with secrets. If you love him he deserves the truth.
Tell him gently and lovingly with no accusations or excuses.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com