Basically his friends hate me (why I dont even know, they dont even know me)
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hey, well I appreciated your advice last time I wrote, which was about trying to enjoy the other parts of my ex's/best friend's life with him. But I'm afraid that just now I realized that will be impossible.
Basically his friends hate me (why I dont even know, they dont even know me, I've met them like twice while he and I were dating and we were all very nice to eachother). Basically his girl friends hate my guts, and he just informed me today that his one guy friend told him that he should spit on me and never talk to me again. Also they pulled him away from me when I was at the same coffee house as them and made him leave because they said he shouldn't be friends with me.
I dont understand this hostility, it makes me extremely angry. Now I got really upset about this because I was afraid they would influence my ex, and he ended up getting mad at me saying he isn't going to defend me enough cuz it wasnt good enough for me, and also saying I'm paranoid.
I tried telling him it was good enough for me and I want him to defend me and he was just like "whatever" and was pretty mean about it, meanwhile I was crying when I found this out.
So I sent him a very angry email telling him that this is bullsh*t and my feelings are valid, not just paranoia, and going on and on about how I'm sick of him being mean to me like this, and basically a lot of swearing and yelling.
I dont know what to do next. His friends hate my guts. He doesnt hate me (so far) but I know he will be at least angry when he gets that email if he isnt already. I feel like I can't compete with his best friends saying stuff like that about me.
You are in a rough situation.
Make every effort to remain friends with him unless you find out that there is no hope.
Then you are going to have to cut bait and fish elsewhere!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com