not fair to me if she wanted to engage in intimate affairs with other people if it was just a game

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My girlfriend says im too jealous/sensitive - Now, I agree that men can be jealous at times, but this I think might cross the line. I just got off the phone with her, and she somehow enstilled me with guilt, because i say its not fair to my heart if she wanted to engage in intimate affairs with other people if it was just a game, or like a truth or dare situation ("just as long as it doesnt MEAN ANYTHING?") im not sure if shes right about this or not, but to me - it would feel like someone stabbed me in the heart if i witnessed something like that. She says, however that i should really look at it as a good thing - and that it should be looked at as a turn on, rather than her committing some sort of act of defiance. Out of shock, i asked her if she really wanted to do something like this and she says no... and i know that we're right together, and i wana marry her and everything - we've not had one fight and we usually see eye to eye. am i wrong? is she wrong for testing me like this, and not getting the answer she wanted? i tried flipping the situation visa versa, but she said she wouldnt care, just as long as i didnt love the person (ofcoarse i dont really want to, i was just trying to show her how much it is supposed to hurt) she says its a guy thing too, that guys are too protective, and that i am particularly too sensitive. she says she will never do any of this stuff but, you guys agree with me right? im sorry i just needed to talk to someone about this cuz it feels like my heart's been wasted. isnt intimacy supposed to be private and between two lovers only?? why do i feel this way? am i right? Advice
It's a question of taste.

Most people would agree with you, but others would agree with her. She is definitely the "kinkier" of you two. She gets turned on thinking about unusual sexual situations.

Think it over and then tell her that you are not ready to engage in that kind of sexual behavior and don't approve of it even hypothetically... which is what she is actually suggesting.

You shouldn't feel wrong about your feelings... they are perfectly normal.

Good luck!

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