I'm tired of being on the side, but I know he's trying hard to fit me in
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend of one year is 27 years old, divorced and a single father of 2 children ages 5 and 8. I am 20 years old and in my first serious relationship. I love him so very much, but there is SO MUCH to deal with in this relationship: the children, his psycho ex, our busy schedues. The only private time my boyfriend and I have is when his children go to sleep at night, but he is tired and just wants to sleep. The kids go to see their mother every other weekend, but that is his chance to do all the things he can't do when they are with him, like fix his car, do all laundry, fix dog kennels etc. I find myself wishing that I could just have him all to myself sometimes. He still lives with his mom and 2 sisters so when i want to see him, i have to go to a house full of people. Then we only get half hour of alone time. It's like, I want to spend time with him, but he comes with a lot of strings. I'm tired of being on the side, but I know he's trying hard to fit me in, but he's just so busy and if not busy, tired already. We almost broke up because of this a few months ago and he said he'd try harder. How much more can I ask for without being selfish? I really do love him so very much but there's so much getting between us. I don't know if i should break up with him because I love him so much, but the situation is hard to deal with.
Face it, he is stretched to the max and fitting you in is something he really wants to do, but realistically can't do.
The best you can do is to take advantage of the weekend when his kids are away and make a date with him for Saturday night. This will only be two nights a month, but that is more than you are getting now.
The date can be an inexpensive dinner or take out and a low-rent motel. Cost under $50. If he can't agree to this then unfortunately you may have to start looking for a new love. I'm sorry you are in this situation!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com