."When I see you I want to run up and give you a huge hug.I want to shout your name out."
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok, well I wrote you about my ex who I've seen a few times now since I've come back home and I'm working at the local grocery store, where this girl follows him and we talk.
Well, when he comes in, I have so many different emotions. I hate seeing the girl there, although, I am nice to her. I believe in being nice to everybody.I'm just a nice person. Both me and my ex are not ready to settle down in life or get married until we are finished with school, but at the same time I am so happy when I see him I want to run up and hug him so hard.
Anyways,He wrote me recently after we hadn't seen each other in a few weeks and he just wanted to know how I was doing and what I was up to.He said he wasn't doing too much except his summer class.He never talks about her like she is important.Anyways he came in one day to the store and I thought he would come over and give me a hug but he left and I thought it was odd because he know I works there, even though it's a big store he still couldve seen me.Well, I wrote ,because I was hurt and I said "why did you ignore me at work?If we can be good friends over email we can still be good friends in public." He wrote back and said that he promised that he didn't see me.That I am not someone he would ever ignore."When I see you I want to run up and give you a huge hug.I want to shout your name out." Well, a coulple of days later I was at work and on my lunch break and I heard someone call my name.I looked up and it was him. And he said, "You see, I would shout your name when I see you" and he gave me a hug.Then he got on his knees and said "I promise I didn't ignore you".He said that it hurt him that I thought that he ignored me.But I said, "Just forget aboutit".But anyways the girl comes walking up pushing the cart never saying anything to me.I say "hello XXX" but she doesn't respond.Meanwhile he is talking but I said "how are you doing XXX".She kind of gave a sarcastic "um.....good." So she walks off and he said that he would come find me when he left.He gave me a hug and kissed me on the shoulder.Not likely flirty or anything, but very sincere like he didn't want to let me go.But anyways, I wrote him saying that "I wouldn't hurt you for world, becuase I love you".He hasn't responded yet, but I don't know how to handle this situation.I wish we could have a talk without anybody around.I know I still love him.I've been dating other people, but when I see him, I just feel so good inside.oh, and ever since we have know each other, when he first asked me out, I've had to deal with girls who hate me.Even girls I thought were my friends.I used to know this girl.I really liked her too but now she's acting like she hates me.I don't like her much now, because I still love him.I wish we could have a heart to heart talk to know if he really cares.Do you think he does?He comes into the store more often then he needs to.But the chick is always there, following like a shadow. I don't think he has the guts to see me without somebody there to show me that he is loved.Is he trying to get attention from me or what?I feel like I should continue to be a good friend to him and nice to everybody.Is it really his job to make a decision or is he waiting on me to do something.I don't have a clue.Thank you.
Sounds like he cares for you a lot.
Keep on doing what you are doing because it is working. Being a close friend is the most important thing at this time. Letting him know your feelings is part of being a best friend.
Hope this helps!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com