I just got mad cuz he lied not even cuz he went on a date
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Sorry I already posted this question but I forgot to put in my email address!!!
Well I have written in here lots with my situation...lately things have been looking way up, but I've kind of hit a really big roadblock.
Well, lately my ex and I have become really really close. We are best friends, he calls me a lot, like on my birthday he called from work to wish me happy birthday, we hang out a lot and all night most of the time. We are always holding eachother when we are alone and even sometimes fool around. Some have called it a "borderline couple" (but only when we're alone). I have been going through a tough personal problem, and he has been there for me constantly, saying how awesome of a person I am, how its so great we can be friends, how he really enjoys my company, etc.
Well I found out he lied to me about this girl he went on a date with. He said it wasn't a date...if it was, I would have liked him to tell me. Well he lied and when I found out I got really angry and confronted him because I hate being lied to, plus he is leading me on on the side. Well he got really angry at me, keeping on denying it was a date even though he called it one to his friends and paid for her movie. Finally he got so mad, he was yelling, he wouldnt call me when he said he would, and got offline while we were talking on msn. (This has all happened today cuz I just found out a few hours ago). Then my best friend said he had written at that exact time in his online journal "Psychotic people suck and should go away". And we agree it has to be about me cuz he was so mad, even walking away from me telling me what I was doing wasn't right (cuz the first time I asked him about it I had went to his work). I'm about 99% positive he is referring to me from the way he is acting and he wrote he was pissed off.
Now I am really hurt, and I cant believe he thinks that about me. I mean I just got mad cuz he lied not even cuz he went on a date...I didn't think he'd view me as psychotic, and I can't believe he'd say that...so what should I do now?? Tomorrow is my birthday party (19th) and he is supposed to come. (I don't know if he will anymore though).
Well you two have made a mess of it... mostly him.
The only thing that will solve this is for the two of you to get together and talk it out calmly (with no anger but love). He thinks you're mad because he went on a date but really you're mad because he lied.
Talk this through and kiss and make up. Try to do this before your party.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com